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From the Introduction

I believe we develop beliefs throughout our lives which become our truths.

Over the years of exploring my beliefs as well as those of thousands of shoplifters-in person, by e-mail, letter, and phone--I have found a string of commonly held beliefs:

  • Life is unfair
  • The world is an unsafe place
  • Nobody will be there to take care of me
  • Nobody's really honest
  • I'm entitled to something extra for my suffering
  • Nice people finish last
  • There's not going to be enough money to live
  • It's a 'dog-eat-dog world' out there
  • No matter how hard I try, things never work out
  • It's not worth my speaking up about anything

These beliefs fuel shoplifting and stealing. Most people are unconscious of their thoughts or they may be prone to "stinking thinking." All behavior--whether freely chosen or stemming from an addictive-compulsive mind set-originates from our thoughts, beliefs, and values. Strong feelings bolster this foundation and, eventually, we act out habitually or with hell-bent righteousness.

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ..............................i
About the Author ............................iv
Preface .....................................vi 
Introduction................................xii

PART ONE
Stories

Terry's Story ................................1 
Marci's Story................................46
Rick's Story.................................59
Sandra's and Her Husband Tom's Stories.......75

PART TWO 

The Top 10 Reasons People Shoplift...........82
Comparison- Kleptomania vs. Shoplifting......83
Including Shoplifting Addiction in the DSM?..88
C.A.S.A. Group Demographics..................90
The 7 Different Types of Shoplifters.........91
Getting Arrested: What You Need to Know......99
How to Avoid the Stores.....................104
Someone to Talk to..........................106
What to do with the Stolen Merchandise......108
The Dangers of Transferring Addictions......110
Gray Area Dishonest Behaviors...............115
Honesty is its Own Reward...................123
Losing Your Edge or Gaining Your Edge.......125
Be Assertive!...............................126
The Importance of Humor.....................127
Forgiving Ourselves.........................130

PART THREE
Exercises

Questions for Self-Exploration..............131
A List of Unfair Things.....................138
A Lucky Gratitude List......................141
Journaling..................................146
Practice Journal Page.......................149
A List of Gray Area Dishonest Behaviors.....150
Healthier Ways to get Freebies & Good Deals.151
Warning Signs and Coping Skills.............157
How My Addictions Served Me.................160
Using the Twelve Steps......................166
Life Happens: A Quiz........................180

PART FOUR
Related Topics

Paul M's Story - A Store Owner's
Perspective.................................181
Employee Theft and Other Addictions of
Dishonesty..................................186
Probation OFficer/Counselor Assessment
Guide.......................................187
How to Conduct an Intervention..............190
How to Start a Self-Help Group..............197
Epilogue: Where Do We Go from Here?.........200
Resources...................................201

 

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